Phone Sex Domination – Rules to live by on the bottom

Phone Sex Domination – The BOTTOM…rules to live by.

Are you beginning to dabble in some phone sex domination?  For the beginner there are some rules to live by and information that I have found helpful in my journey.  Remember you are the submissive or the bottom.  You must find someone to be your dominant or your top, they must find you really and select you and make sure your are comfortable with the choice.

You must always establish a safeword when entering into a scene or lifestyle with someone even if it’s just phone sex.  This is your word if you have reached your limit and don’t want the scene to continue.  Choosing a yellow word as well this will not end the scene it will let your top understand why you are feeling this way and then the scene can continue.  This is very important.

Always discuss ahead of time what your limits are.  Your top must understand where you stand on things.  Communication is very important into entering into a scene or a relationship.

You will always answer out loud verbally to any questions your top asks you.  In the scene your top may not be able to see your face so verbally answering is appropriate.

Always for submission purposes you must answer every question with a yes or no Mistress/Goddess etc.  You always address your top formally with master or sir or mistress.  Your top will establish how he or she would like to be addressed. If you don’t answer properly too many times then you could get a punishment with a flogger.

Always look into your top’s eyes when speaking to him or her, unless otherwise noted by them.

You shall never refuse any action that is requested by your top, unless you are safe wording and the scene will then be over.

Experiment this is your journey together, seeing you satisfied and having that thirst quenched is what your Domme/Dom is looking for.  This kind of relationship just isn’t about sex and sometimes it has nothing to do with sex.  Discipline is what it is about.  You will only be satisfied when your top is satisfied.

When you are with the right Domme/Dom he or she  will never want to hurt you or push you past your limits.  He or she  will know what’s best for the bottom.  Start slow and work your way up to the power exchange that you can mentally and physically handle.

Don’t let the word submissive get you confused.  Many strong women and men are a submissive and don’t know it.  Maybe you have a high profile job and you are responsible for so much in your life where sometimes relinquishing your power to someone else for a change and being submissive clears your head and makes you free.

Here are some basic rules and information to get you started for you being a newbie in the BDSM scene.  Talk to someone and find a mentor.
If you want to learn more Aileen will help you through any kind of scene and test all your limits with a little phone sex domination.